qorl123
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qorl123

How dare you offer me a shit pepsi?! I demand a cherry coke, AT LEAST.

Seriously though, I like the tags.

Mark Davenport
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Savage.

Gene Auhl
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Gene Auhl

when will i expect this pepsi…i don’t care for the apology for either game, just want the pepsi

iThinkMyCatIsAFlea
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iThinkMyCatIsAFlea

When you say “have a Pepsi”, do you mean to tell the cancerous ass pulls, that’ll be along shortly, to give themselves a Pepsi enema?

Stephen Mc Devitt
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Stephen Mc Devitt

Haha! 😀

PIERS
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*slow clap* See, this is why I will never stop proverbially riding Jim’s dick.

Adam Robert Sherman
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Adam Robert Sherman

Now if only we could do so, literally.

Jake Francis
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Jake Francis

I saw this and smiled. To most that’s an average response but I’m dead inside and this still made me smile. Thanks a lot Jim i now know what emotions are.

Viking Mana
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Viking Mana

What exactly is “Toxic Masculinity”? I keep hearing this term, and I have literally no clue what it means. From what I’ve gathered among the people using it, being “Masculine” in the classical sense is now a bad thing too?

Artemiy
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Artemiy

That depends on what you mean “classical sense”. I personally think phrases like “a woman’s place is in the kitchen” is an example of toxic masculinity.

Maxwell Tucker
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Maxwell Tucker

That’s not masculinity, that just people being stupid.

Artemiy
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Artemiy

Well, not a lot of sexist people are known for their intelligence.

Viking Mana
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Viking Mana

Can I just add that it’s sort of funny how we keep running into each other?

Viking Mana
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Viking Mana

But.. Isn’t that just basic sexism? Why invent a new term for it that’s so aggressive?

Jonathan Roth
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Jonathan Roth

Think of “Toxic masculinity” like “poison berries”. Berries are great, and no-one is demonizing berries when we point out that some of them are poisonous. Toxic masculinity are ways culture and media define masculinity and manhood in ways that are self-destructive and harmful to others.

Darkwynd
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Darkwynd

So, just another fancy word for sexism, then.

Artemiy
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Artemiy

Eeeeh, maybe? Or a subset of sexism which puts emphasis more on everyday behavior rather than systemic issues?

Viking Mana
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Viking Mana

Still just seems like sexism to me. Or just an archaic world-view. There are women who still think that this sort of mindset is right, and they’re hardly being masculine?

Scott Guertin
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Scott Guertin

Think of it as a more defined subset of sexism, talking about the prevalence of specific behaviors and attitudes, rather than the more broad term sexism which can mean any number of things.

Toxic masculinity is particularly tricky because a lot of times it’s self-enforced and rarely, if ever, questioned.

Darkwynd
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Darkwynd

For me sexism is sexism. Trying to classify it into sub-categories is pointless. Is like classifing different types of racism and xenophobia, in the end, it’s all the same.

Jim Sterling
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No, toxic masculinity is the idea that men hurt themselves by trying to live up to the ideals of what “being a man” is. Having seen the angst and worry some men live in, perpetually, to the point where they’re terrified of holding their girlfriend’s bag for a second in case they look un-macho, I do believe in the idea. It’s been used to talk about various mass shooters who were obsessed with getting laid and immersed themselves in pick-up-artist bullshit. What a lot of people misunderstand about the term is that they think masculinity is, itself, being called toxic.… Read more »
Artemiy
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Artemiy

Aaaah, thank you! I was wrong all along!

Jim Sterling
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The fact that the phrase “toxic masculinity” also really upsets angry men on YouTube makes it a self-proving point too. The slightest perceived attack on manliness can make some people go fucking postal.

Ericsson
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Ericsson

To be fair and from what I can tell, those “angry men on Youtube” seem to get upset at the term when it is frivolously thrown around by the likes of Anita and her boyfriend to describe anything they don’t like and don’t agree with. I could be wrong though. And as for the guys who get triggered at the term itself, well, tough crap for them.

Viking Mana
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Viking Mana

See.. This makes more sense than any of the other explanations I’ve been given.

PleaseDontTalkToMe
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PleaseDontTalkToMe
I’m terrified of holding my girlfriend’s bag because I have crippling social anxiety and a bag is something i wouldn’t usually hold so it puts me out of my comfort zone. I was afraid of buying flowers for the longest time purely because I’d never done it before, one day i forced myself to and it’s fine now, handbags are still touch and go. I can buy feminine hygiene stuff for my girlfriend fine because its something she needs and has asked me to go get. But i can’t buy snack-a-jacks or ryvita because i’m overweight and people might think… Read more »
Pete
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Pete

And sweet cocktail make you drunk faster too.

Jim Sterling
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Social anxiety and toxic masculinity are very different. I have social anxiety as well and actually, funnily enough, hate holding a lot of things for the same reasons.

Also, I specifically order “girly” drinks when I’m out. They get you hammered better and they don’t taste of pish.

Yumzux
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Yumzux

It’s a girl drink, Jim! It tastes like candy!

Eliot Ferrer
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Eliot Ferrer

That’s the first time I really understand the term in more than general terms. Thank you!

dunnace
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dunnace

Toxic masculinity is a critique of the cultural perspective which stereotypes men as dominant, aggressive, unemotional and sexually aggressive, both collectively and as individuals. Many feminist movements seek to address this aspect of masculinity and deconstruct its ideas and principles.

I just googled the term. Top thing, Not even a site, wiki summary.

Viking Mana
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Viking Mana

Well, I haven’t googled them, because I assumed it was just another made-up term. I’m still firmly unconvinced that there’s actually a point to it, but thanks for your explanation.

dunnace
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dunnace

I think it’s wise to research something before dismissing it, then way you either learn something new or you can dismiss it with authority rather than bluster.

When you deliberately blind yourself you only do yourself the disservice.

Viking Mana
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Viking Mana

I’m pretty sure I never dismissed anything with bluster. As it turns out it’s just another nonsense term it seems. Something that addresses and archaic view of stereotypical gender-roles and is not specifically masculine.

PIERS
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Saying you never dismissed anything while simultaneously calling it a “nonsense term” IS dismissive.

dunnace
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dunnace

“just another nonsense term”

That is bluster. Do you know who coined the phrase or why it exists? Why is it nonsense? Is there any real world examples that dismiss the concept? For someone who knew nothing about it until I did the first piece of research for you you seem very confident in dismissing the concept outright without any further thought.

Viking Mana
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Viking Mana

Well, you seem very eager to unquestioningly adopt it. I just don’t think it makes sense.

Jim Sterling
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Viking please read the rather lengthy comment I wrote describing the term. You seem to misunderstand it and yes, you are dismissing it quite gibly.

PIERS
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I bet you didn’t expect this kind of major conversation to come out of this article.

Viking Mana
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Viking Mana

I do believe I have – And what you brought up was not quite what was being described to me in the first place. What you’ve described makes more sense. This multi-thread stuff is making my head spin.

dunnace
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dunnace

Not saying you should adopt it, I’m saying you should consider it’s value as a term for longer than it takes you to type out a comment. I’d love to have a debate about its worthiness as a terminology, but only if the person I’m debating with has an understanding that extends beyond what I’ve already told them.

PIERS
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Well, the point of it is to prove that – despite society in general telling them otherwise – they don’t have to act all macho and Gaston-like. For some, Gaston is the perfect example of “toxic masculinity.”

Artemiy
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Artemiy

Ooooh, that is nice. I’m kicking myself in the arse for not remembering Gaston.

Viking Mana
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Viking Mana

Well, some men just want to act like that though. Just like some women want a stereotypical lumberjack.

PIERS
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Right, but it’s acting like that to the point that it’s harmful to people around them that it becomes “toxic.” Being violent, domineering, sexist, all to “prove their manlienss.”

Jim Sterling
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“Well, some men just want to act like that though. Just like some women want a stereotypical lumberjack.”

And that’s fine.

It’s when self-harm or harm or others come into play that the masculinity goes from Gaston to poison.

Viking Mana
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Viking Mana

I just caught your reply elsewhere Jim, and it makes a lot more sense. I’m not sure the term “Toxic Masculinity” is really fitting though.

Fray Joker
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Fray Joker

Ideally masculinity, as with all traits / philosophies / identities / what have you, are tempered with introspection. The problem isn’t machismo or stoicism itself. It’s machismo and stoicism that’s defaulted to to the detriment of authentic expression.

Fray Joker
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Fray Joker

It’s a good definition, the only thing I’d add is that it’s seen as a way that men are specifically harmed by gender inequality. It’s not something men do to women, it’s something men do to themselves because of the expectation put on them to behave in a particular way.

Stephen Mc Devitt
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Stephen Mc Devitt

And the current leaders of America and Russia embody toxic masculinity. Doesn’t matter if you’re gay or even remotely empathetic ‘cus these barbarians want us dead.

Viking Mana
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Viking Mana

Russia is so much worse than America that the equivalency doesn’t add up.

dunnace
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dunnace

Can you explain how Russia is more an example of toxic masculinity, so much so that a comparison to America, a country currently run by a man who brags about sexual assault is not even conceivable?

Viking Mana
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Viking Mana

Well, as an LGBT-person, you’re generally a lot safer in America than you are in Russia. I despise Trump as much as the next guy, but he hasn’t yet made homosexuality effectively illegal. Yes, I’m aware that he might if the right people had their way, but that hasn’t happened yet.

qorl123
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qorl123

Did you know that when Israel’s prime minister(I think) was accused of sexual harassment(possibly assault) Putin called him to congratulate him on his manliness and joke about the situation?

dunnace
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dunnace

I didn’t, that is horrifying and a good candidate for an example of toxic masculinity.

It doesn’t excuse Trump though.

qorl123
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qorl123

We once had a politician in Poland who, on live tv, “joked” that raping a prostitute is impossible, because…they’re sex workers I guess?

Stephen Mc Devitt
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Stephen Mc Devitt

Trump and Putin still embody it equally. The real difference is that Putin has been doing for year and Trump is barely president these last 3 months.

Russia always seem to have the worst leaders that treat their own people like shit.

Viking Mana
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Viking Mana

Sure, neither one is an ideal leader – but that’s not what I was saying either. What I meant was that it would still be wrong to compare quality of life for LGBT-people in Russia or the US respectively, because there’s a pretty big gap. Conditions in the US are far from ideal, but in Russia they’re archaic.

qorl123
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qorl123

You’re right, but I think Stephen was talking only about the two leaders, not comparing the two countries

Riosine
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Riosine
Oh that sound exactly like the so called “religion of peace” On womens: 17″Males are to inherit twice that of females” 37″You don’t have to be modest around your wives or your slave girls “that your right hand possess.” 51 “Those who “did wrong” will go to hell, and their wives will go to hell with them (no matter how they behaved)” www[DOT]skepticsannotatedbible[DOT]com/quran/women/long[DOT]html About peace: “They who disbelieve, and deny Our revelations, such are rightful Peoples of the Fire. They will abide therein.” “Allah will make disbelievers’ lives miserable in this world and torture them forever after they die.” “Christians… Read more »
PIERS
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Translation: HEY GUYS, HERE’S A TOTALLY DIFFERENT THING FROM WHAT YOU WERE TALKING ABOUT BECAUSE I WANT TO RANT AND RAVE ABOUT HOW BAD ISLAM IS!

dunnace
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dunnace

LOOK AT ALL MY DEAD CATS

Riosine
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Riosine

Sure, So what do actually expect can come from something as vague as the concept of “toxic masculinity” ?

I ask for making conversation

PIERS
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Scroll down. We’ve been discussing it. Even Jim himself posted about it.

Riosine
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Riosine

Fine so you don’t want to keep discussing such thing anymore. I do understand

PIERS
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You asked “What do you actually expect can come from something as vague as the concept of toxic masculinity?”

I answered. Scroll down. We literally had a discussion about the definition and what it means.

Riosine
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Riosine

“I answered. Scroll down. We literally had a discussion about the definition and what it means.”
And this implies it has finished… Didn’t I told you I understand?

PIERS
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No one has tried to argue against the issue in over an hour, so I would say so. Jim defines it pretty comprehensively.

But if you want to continue it on, please feel free to crowbar your Islamophobia into the conversation below.

Riosine
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Riosine

Ok, so because I find correlation between religions and a vague topic and then that surely implies I’ve Islamophobia Mr, Internet Psychologist.

Well we can stop it now or proceed to the next bizarre discussion: on the legality of internet medical diagnosis

PIERS
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Nah, I’m done. Toodles.

Wolfie
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Wolfie

And let’s totally ignore the historical context of Islam and other complex facets of it solely for the purpose to come across as an asinine asshole.

People like them piss me off.

dunnace
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dunnace

I find it interesting you want to turn an a broad reaching concept of masculinity as a toxic concept into attacking a religion that nobody has mentioned, nor one I agree with (I’m not Muslim and I don’t endorse the actions of illiberal groups. I’m agnostic and believe religion can be misused into oppressive forms, but where it acts as a personal faith that’s fine and should be defended).

What you need to consider is why Islam is such a huge part of your life, so much so you bring it into unrelated discussions.

Riosine
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Riosine

Oh You are implying im attacking a religion silly, when Im just exposing it.

Thing is this religions sounds like its actually attacking other people, and this is from where you extrapolated im attacking it, Doesn’t it?

dunnace
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dunnace

“so called “religion of peace””

That’s an attack.

Riosine
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Riosine

Huh? so its not actually called like that then. well everyone can commits errors from time to time

dunnace
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dunnace

The phrase “so-called” inherently means “this is a lie and I’m attacking this concept”.

If I called you the “so-called” Islamic scholar it means I don’t think you’re an Islamic scholar. So you kind of tipped your hand. Plus pulling out of context quotes to make a point is a super aggressive technique designed to lend authority to an argument that has none.

Riosine
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Riosine

Eh?I could swear “so-called” simply meant somethings in the terms “self-denominated”, well you learn something new everyday.
But don’t worry that has a solution =)

dunnace
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dunnace

Unsusbscribe

qorl123
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qorl123

Dude, what? I deeply dislike all religions but your comment has a very tenuous connection to the topic of this thread

João Bordignon
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João Bordignon

Expanding what dunnace said. A good example of toxic masculinity are soldiers not seeking help for PTSD for fear of being labeled as weak.

Viking Mana
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Viking Mana
So, after 20 minutes and some education, I now know what the term means. Obviously I think anyone who would harm others to prop up their own image or identity should be apprehended and disciplined proportionately, and I think that anyone who would harm themselves in pursuit of a particular identity should be given the appropriate care and attention that they clearly need. What I will say is that I don’t necessarily agree with the term itself. The fact that it’s so easily misunderstood or misused is less than ideal, and I do feel some concern in regards to how… Read more »
qorl123
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qorl123

What other side? The thing is I’m having trouble picturing toxic feminity, because stereotypical feminity doesn’t really contain characteristics whose exaggeration could be considered harmful. Maybe there are some, I’m not sure.

Please note that toxic masculinity is not really a criticism of masculinity itself. Rather I think it’s a criticism of some radical expressions of it.

dunnace
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dunnace

Toxic Femininity could be shunning other women who display forms of intelligence in things like science or law. Think of the idea of a “blonde” stereotype, that is toxic femininity

dunnace
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dunnace
But the toxicity specifically refers to masculine qualities, it’s an exclusively male concept. A toxic femininity would be women who deliberately hide their intellect and preen themselves instead as they believe that is a woman’s role. The subtly to the term is the toxic, it’s not that masculinity is the problem, it’s when you let your gender control your identity to the detriment of your own personality, and how the media reinforces dangerous stereotypes. Toxic masculinity refers to a specific false image that is imposed, not just a general false identity. That said, this is a great response and it’s… Read more »
Viking Mana
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Viking Mana
There is absolutely nothing wrong with identifying strongly with your gender. I feel like this “Toxic Masculinity”-thing is often being thrown out in contexts where it doesn’t necessarily apply. It’s very hard to determine whether someone is doing something stupid because they feel forced to do so by social standards, or if they’re just stupid. Obviously self-harm is bad, and people who engage in unhealthy behavior because they feel like they have to need appropriate help. And that’s why I feel like toxic masculinity doesn’t really apply, as the desire to appear overly masculine at your detriment, or that of… Read more »
qorl123
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qorl123

No. Toxic masculinity is masculinity taken too far, and it can result in behaviours harmful to oneself and others. Picture a chav, or some other young hooligan acting aggressive towards anyone who makes eye contact with, because he thinks he needs to establish dominance or something.

Danny Carr
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Danny Carr
Toxic masculinity sounds a bit dramatic. I do kinda see the point though. I think it’s like many things when masculinity is bought to an extreme it’s a problem. A man that won’t cut himself any slack even when exhausted or injured, is aggressive and dominating to everyone around him, will not admit he has any problems physical or mental because he’d appear weak so lets them worsen, treats women as beneath him and is doing all that because it’s the manly way to behave? Well yeah he is going to be a problem for himself and people around. You… Read more »
Ryan
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Ryan

First time playing Mario 64 for me was in 2011 on Wii VC and by far it’s the best 3D mario game

anomalous material
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anomalous material

I had to try several times to load this page, to see your apology. For the effort it took, I thought, this had damn well better be worth it.

I was not disappointed.

Well done, Jim Fucking Sterling, son.

BAH!
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BAH!

Those tags are fucking gold. Which is better than regular gold.

Thomas Neo Anderson
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Thomas Neo Anderson

Trump must be informed! Quick! To Twitter!

Jacob Campbell
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Jacob Campbell

It’s taking me ages to load up any pages on your website, another petty ddos attack perhaps?

Other websites seem to be working fine so I don’t think it’s a problem on my end, and anyway in the case of yooka-laylee I didn’t really see anything in your review that others haven’t mentioned, it’s a 90’s game with 90’s problems, seems too many people really do take numbers more seriously than words.

Jim Sterling
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90% of the time it’s my clearly shit host trying to handle the traffic. We’re now looking into migrating the site, because the way this site crumbles no matter how much I upgrade my service is just fucking stupid at this point.

Artemiy
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Artemiy

Quick! Give Jim ALL your referal accounts on hosting platforms! Let the best Boglin win!

Talon
Guest

Will you follow the call of the Biscuit to join the overlords at Squarespace?

Jim Sterling
Guest

The Biscuit has already sent me an email with his Squarespace advertisement. 😛

Tom (Elegor) Fish
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Tom (Elegor) Fish

I didn’t know Lu Bu was into garbage soda.

Kasey Moore
Guest

Trigger me timbers.

Artemiy
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Artemiy

Trigger my soul.
Woooo-oooh-eh-ooooh.

There are men whose hearts are as black as coal.
Wooooo-oooh-eh-oooooh.

Paul LaPorte
Guest

RACISM AND ALSO THE TOXIC NATURE OF VIDEO GAME CONSUMERISM IS OVER!!!

gigantor21
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gigantor21

Did…did you just end racism, Jim?

Giorgos Katsas
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Giorgos Katsas
Chris Mitchell
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Chris Mitchell

I only drink Coke, Jim… this means WAR!

Adam Robert Sherman
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Adam Robert Sherman

Since I drink both, does that make me a filthy, filthy traitor?

Andrew Mills
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Andrew Mills

“Vanquish Was Not Good”

*shakes fist, clutching can of Pepsi*

irfanf (IrfanF)
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irfanf (IrfanF)

No apology for the low score of 8.5 and slander to Persona 5? /s

AdrastusDarke
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AdrastusDarke

Masterful work Jim, Pepsi solves everything.

dunnace
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dunnace

I laughed and then I saw in the tags you say Mario 64 has aged badly and now I demand another Pepsi.

Jim Sterling
Guest

I tried to hit a wide selection of Pepsi-needers with the tags.

dunnace
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dunnace

I’m just saying that if your solution to annoying people is to give out Pepsi you’re soon going to have as many Pepsi cans as you have opinions.

Vincent Gregory
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Vincent Gregory

I never read the tags. After looking at them, I see you think that Vanquish is not good?! How DARE you, Sir! This is a slap in the face, indeed!

I’ll gladly accept your Pepsi, though.

Fray Joker
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Fray Joker

If this is the coining of a term, I’m glad to be here in this moment.

Oh good, another pepsi-needer bitching about game scores.

Philip K. Dingus
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Philip K. Dingus

Nice

Kitsunelaine
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Kitsunelaine

But is it hand-delivered by Pepsiman?

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